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Let go ... It just might not be yours!

published on Tuesday, 12 April 2016


Sometimes the people we expect to learn the least from are the people that shock us with some of the greatest lessons we'll ever learn.

I was going through BellaNaija this morning, when I stumbled on a post from Khloe Kardashian talking about "letting go" and people, once again, assumed the message was meant for Lamar Odom, her estranged husband.

Whether the post was meant for him or not, is besides the point of this post. What struck me was the message in the post and how much it taught me. 

Read it below:

"“We have to learn to stop taking on peoples problems as if they are our own. Loving people does not mean we have to carry their burdens and confusions on our back.

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realising that the only person you really have control over is yourself. Letting go with love takes great strength. We have to learn to stop taking on peoples problems as if they are our own. Loving people does not mean we have to carry their burdens and confusions on our back.

Sadly, You can only express your opinion on a situation. You can’t want their life more than they do. This is in fact their life to figure out on their own and in their own time. I do believe in timing. I do believe timing is everything. You forcing your beliefs and dreams down ones throat is only going to cause resentment and possibly manifest deeper issues. Possibly to the point of no return.

People say time heals all wounds… I say time heals wounds but scars are left to remind you what you have been through and what you survived. Stop shattering your own heart by trying to make a relationship (friend, family, partner) work that clearly isn’t meant to work. We have to stop trying to repaint people’s colors. We have to learn to believe the love we AREN’T given. You can’t love someone into loving you. (God I wish it were that easy) You can’t force someone to be loyal, kind, understanding. You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be. Even if it’s for their own good!! Sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without. 😩😫

You have to understand… some things ARE supposed to happen in your life, but they just are NOT meant to be. Damn… It took me so many years to understand that.

Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken. God always has a plan even if we can’t understand it (or don’t want to understand it) Even in the darkest of places… Our Lord sees His vision. 
We might not understand it at the moment but I promise you, your future will always bring understanding and clarity of why things didn’t work out. Don’t put your happiness on hold for someone (family, friend, partner) who isn’t holding on to you.

A Girl once told me… Be careful when trying to fix a broken person. For you may cut yourself on their shattered pieces."


So yeah, my message for you guys today is that sometimes, when things don't go right in your life, it might not be a mistake, it might not be your fault, it might just be God's plan for you. Why not let go, and let God?

And if there's one thing to take away from Khloe, it's the fact that we have to "be careful when trying to fix a broken person. For you may cut yourself on their shattered pieces."

Ciao

-Pookie